Dear Lipreading Mom,
My daughter is dating a guy that has some type of social anxiety disorder. I
can’t hear him when he talks. Most hearing people have to strain to hear him. I do not know what to do with this guy. I am about to tell him, “Look, why don’t
we take sign language because I can’t hear you. If we both learn to sign then I
will be able to at least understand you.” I am just about to check out whenever
he comes in the room because it is fruitless. What would you do in my
Communicator Seeking Clarity
I encourage you to try to GATS Method with your daughter's boyfriend.
G - Gently get his attention.
A - Ask him politely to move to a quiet location to speak with you.
T - Take time to explain to him that he is free to use whatever it takes to communicate with you (voice, pen and paper, typing on a cell phone or keyboard).
S - Suggest that your daughter be a 'Hearing Helper' for you---a communication helper when listening situations are most difficult.
Use the GATS Method over and over until all of you are comfortable with it. And please keep me posted.
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Shanna Groves was diagnosed with progressive hearing loss after the birth of her first child. She was 27. Raised in a hearing family, Shanna traces her hearing loss to a genetic loss on the paternal side of her family. She is mom to three young children, a published author, and speaker. Her books are featured at www.ShannaGroves.com. Shanna blogs about being a hard of hearing mom at http://LipreadingMom.com.