New parents, finding out their child is deaf, blind, or both are understandably devastated. Dreams they had for their child are crushed and fears and doubts and all the other stages of grief seep in.
After accepting this new discovery, it's "Now What?" This is where many parents turn for medical advice. This is where I want to stop y'all. I don't care how many framed degrees the professional has hung on his wall, trust me, they do NOT know everything, or what's best. Seek out the actual group, whether it's a blind club, deaf club or deafblind club and see for yourselves actual happy and thriving adults. Seek out similar parents and discuss your fears and needs, nothing like hearing from peers who've gone through this to help you out.
I've read over and over on forums, articles, discussion boards and the like of parents bemoaning "my child will never know what music is", "they'll never see a rainbow", "they'll never...". My answer is....so what!! You have to remember you're basing this on what YOU'VE experienced. You have to treat this child as a blank slate, how can they miss something they've never experienced? So they'll never experience the "Big Wide World" out there, but you can give them everything in their own little world. Just think what a thrill it'll be to feel a chick hatch out of an egg in their own hands? What may seem like "boring" things may be a lot for your child. Hours spent on the swingset just because the breeze on their face is "so cool" and "I was flying". On the other end, you cannot protect them from everything, they'll need a few bumps and bruises to learn their limits.
"If you raise your children to feel that they can accomplish any goal or task they decide upon, you will have succeeded as a parent and you will have given your children the greatest of all blessings." ~ Brian Tracy
Just because your child is differently-abled doesn't mean you'll love them any less? Just take all the Professional medical advice with a grain of salt, make sure all your cards are on the table, and don't rush into any decisions to "fix" your child to fit yours and society's standards of perfection.
"One finds limits by pushing them" ~ Herbert Simon
Under My Fingertips
I have been Deaf & legally Blind since birth. I've been married to my hearing Husband for 15 years and we have 2 hearing children, a boy 14, and a girl 12.