The other day I was surfing Twitter, as usual (follow me at @Rusty_Coyote), and I came across this blog post - "Please Stop Saying 'Don't let your Disabilities Define You!': An Open Letter to Almost Everyone" (Warning: Some cussing).
I wholeheartedly agree with the writer! Yes I am Deafblind, that will always be a part of me and affect me daily, but it should not be the first thing you see or how you define me. Period.
That's like trying to tell my son he's not a blue-eyed blonde! Wait? What? Sure you might see that he is right away, but do you point it out to him or mention it every time? Or do you talk about how good his grades are, how's he doing in Marching Band, or what's the latest game he's playing on the computer? The only time it's a "disability" is if you blatantly state to him "No, we're looking for a brown eyed girl and not you".
The same goes for me and every other person with a disability. Yeah we KNOW we're disabled, but do we care? *scoff*
I love this quote by Warick Davis - "The World worries about disability more than disabled people do".
So whether it was well-intended, trying to inspire, or just out of awkwardness it's getting old and is condescending. So don't tell us to stop letting our disabilities define us, maybe it's YOU that should stop defining us by our disabilities hmm??
One finds limits by pushing them" ~ Herbert Simon
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I have been Deaf & legally Blind since birth. I've been married to my hearing Husband for 15 years and we have 2 hearing children, a boy 14, and a girl 12.