If you know me personally, and what you've read here, you'll know I'm politically incorrect and I'm tired of people in general deciding what's best for others. Especially when they have NO experience on that particular group.
For example I'm supposed to be "Hearing Impaired and Visually Challenged", nope I'm DeafBlind. Many Deaf people HATE that term anyway, it implies that we are broken, inferior, etc. We Deaf with a capital D (Culturally Deaf) are proud of ourselves, our language and our culture.
There are others who fear using common words around people with disabilities. "Oh, never use the word "see" or "look" around a Blind person, you'll hurt their feelings." Oh come on! We use those words all the time, I had a Blind friend who always said "Hey great to see you!"
Is it part of society's guilt trip to make themselves "feel good"? "Oh I'm HELPING them". Is it social awkwardness being around people different than you? We're all human beings for crying out loud, we don't bite. Is it exercising superiority over others? Well if that's it, then you're an idiot, how's THAT for a label?
Whatever their reason is, I'm TIRED of it!! Stop deciding what's best for me! You're not involved in my life or even know me and yet you assume to know what words or labels would help me? For what? From hurting my feelings? Helping me fit in?? It's doing the opposite! Your labels are actually invoking feelings of pity.
So before you decide among yourselves what "safe" words should be used, why not involved those you are labelling in the decision process? There was a study done in the UK where they ask the participants who had varying degrees of physical disabilities what would you like to be labeled as. The majority said "Gimp", "I'm a gimp, short and simple". So as you know that term is thought of as an insult, isn't it?
It just boils down to treating everyone with dignity and respect without assumptions and fears and no labels!
The only label I have is Tracy, that's my name and that's all you need.
Under My Fingertips
I have been Deaf & legally Blind since birth. I've been married to my hearing Husband for 15 years and we have 2 hearing children, a boy 14, and a girl 12.